V for Valentine and Vicarious and Vulnerable

I'm late of course...but I'm entitled to post about Valentine's Day whenever I want to. Single people are allowed since we don't quite get to share the day lol.

As I thought of this blog, I imagined how many blogs went up about Valentine's Day. And I wondered how many of them actually commended the day for what it is...a day to celebrate love. It's kind of odd that I have this view of Valentine's Day, because I've been single for so long. As romantic as I am, I am STILL single. As much as I talk or mope about being single, I'm yet to get up and go out there to date. In a way I guess I'm ok with my status. Or maybe I just don't want to go through the process of meeting someone.And here it is, another year without a valentine.


But this blog isn't really about my single hood. Its about my thought on Valentine's Day. I've heard soooo many folks (mostly married & coupled folks) cry down the notion of it. Isn't that "funny"? The coupled couples cry down the one day given to celebrate love.
I read and hear comments that its just another "get you to spend your money" holiday, that Cupid is like Santa...as false as the eyelashes I put on on special occasions. I even hear the infamous "I much rather get the 'just because' flowers" ...oh pishtosh. It urks me. Hmmphh...I never would have imagined.

Yes we are to love everyday. So one day out of the year shouldn't make a difference right? Wrong! This one day out of the year is to help rekindle what may be dying out. Its one of the many days out of the year to remind me why I(well you) said "I do" or, why you'd want to. If there isn't anything to probe the fire, if no wood is put in to replensish the flame, then the flame would die down. No? Would we celebrate ashes? I hardly doubt we would. So why not illuminate Valentine's Day?


If there is one day, ONE day, out of the year that I'd like to be splurged on and treated like a queen times 2 than I already am by my significant other, I won't mind. I adore Valentine's Day. And if I get the chance to be with someone again, I'd be sure to make that day one of our special days of celebration.

I don't imagine my S.O. To be able to afford luxuries EVERYDAY or as often as Thursdays come around. Unless it is, of course, that I marry Reggie Bush. And even then, I don't think I'd have the luxury of being surprised on V-day. He'd be able to get me any and everything, any and everyday. I like a bit of mystery.

I "heart" V-Day ... I truly do.

I'm not limiting myself to the prospect of a lavish lifestyle, I'm not crying it down either, I know what my personality is comfortable with and its simply comfortable with communication, love and romance.

Thing is, V-day doesn't have to be comprised of elaborate or costly gifts. It can be a moment that would take us through some more months of our bond as one. Folks forget that love takes work. Its like dressing up. We must have something to motivate and inspire us to something greater to what we already have. And what's better than that greatness with the one we already have?

Valentine's day is an opportunity for my guy to go all out. It'd be the one day I may allow myself and him to spend our rent/mortgage/bills money on something for each other...but if he was to do that every other week/month...we'd be OVER. Everything is balanced in life, so is love.

I look forward to Valentine's Day one day. Give me V-day. A funny v-day, a special v-day, and a memorable v-day. It'd help add to the memory and history of a love that would always be celebrated.