Have you ever heard of the term Blasian? I have to ask, because I hadn't. Until I met Onica aka Euphoria-Luv that is. Now mind you, I have my own Blasian babies in my family...my cousin's married to a Japanese girl and while I totally adore Miko and Mao, I just never knew they would have been termed "blasian babies"...cute isn't it?
When I met Onica...a fellow mom like I am... I got to know her passion through her blogs. Her baby Daniel is. A cute faced bundle of joy. Her blasian baby boy.
So in keeping with the mission of my blogs... to uplift and inspire other moms (single and married), I present to you my feature mommy of the month. Onica ... and Daniel. Hope you enjoy the interview.
1. How did you feel when you got the news that you were having a baby?
I was both excited and nervous. My son's father and I were trying to conceive for a lil' over 6 months and started to worry it might not happen for us. So when after a week of having morning sickness and wondering, I saw the two pink lines and life changed for me.
2. What, thus far, is your most memorable moment being Daniel’s mom?
The labor and delivery hands down takes the cake. Not for the pain and drama at the hospital but for that special moment when my son came out and I announced to the world he's here. As a woman, you go through such a mystical moment, then realize you've become more than yourself and could see the glory of the universe through your connection to this new life.
3. What’s your daily routine like with a one year old?
Early morning and early nights. LOL. We wake up about 5/6am, do the morning routine of washing our face, getting breakfast and either off to daycare or off to a day's activity. By later afternoon / early evening we're back home for dinner, bath, story or DVD time and then snuggle to sleep.
4. When I met you, I came across the term Blasian…understood it and thought it to be so culturally unique…can you explain to my readers what Blasian is?
The term "Blasian" is used to describe either an Asian and black couple or a child with Asian and black heritage. Oddly enough besides Blasian other terms are used such as blacknese, blackpino, etc... You can read more about the term when used to describe a group here - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Afro-Asian
5. I stop by your blog page every now and again. As as a mother I seek tips far and wide. I love the content of your page, what (other than Daniel) encourages you to keep it going?
There is only Daniel. LOL. Kidding. I want to share and encourage other black women who date inter-racially. When I get an email from someone thanking me for sharing, for letting them know they are not alone and that it's OK to want to date interracial. It strengthens me to keep living online.
6. You’re of Caribbean descent and African descent. Daniel, now is of both Caribbean and Asian descent and you’re raising him in an American culture. Do you find it challenging to raise such a culturally diverse baby?
Correction, Daniel is of Black and Asian decent, specifically Korean. LOL. In general I don't find a problem with sharing dual cultures with him. America is a culturally rich environment if you know where to look. I'm surrounded by diverse people who share their culture easily. The problem I find is with people who don't see the world as diverse. Some people like to point out that, because your skin tone is one way then you should only act and do things limited to that group. That's when things get challenging. I don't accept that way of thinking or people trying to force it on me and my family.
7. Do you find yourself learning about the Asian culture as well? If so, what’s it like for you?
In general I knew of some Korean culture already but just on the surface. When I planned on having Daniel I started learning more specific and traditional things about the Korean culture. While his dad is of Korean decent he was more American so I sorta fell on me to do the research. I think it would have been hardier for me if I didn't have Korean friends and co-workers. They are a tremendous help with getting Korean culture info beyond the basics.
It's exciting for me to have bits and pieces of the Korean culture to share with my son. Since his dad isn't in his life to teach our son, as s single mom I'm proud that I can.
8. As a mother of such a young baby, what are some of the things you find that you deprive yourself of? How do you get past it/them?
I don't get lot of time for the things I like to do personally...like reading a book. The books I read are all children books and can be read in under 5 minutes. As a mom I have no extra time sitting and reading magazines, newspapers much less an adult books. I've tried using audio books but it's still no good cause my son wants to listen also. I'm still working on this. LOL
9. Through your blog I see that you play a very active role in Daniel’s daily activities. What are some tips you can share with my readers?
Yes, I don't think when you become a parent means you stop doing fun things. If you plan ahead then you can enjoy any activity with your child. Know your child's schedule so you can have a child who is rested, fed and eager to explore with you. Also try and see that doing an activity with your child is bonding time, not time wasted. Children don't need a lot of expensive activities or toys. Simple things that connect parent and child are worth it weight in gold now and in the future.
10. Last but not least…with such an active role as a mother, what do you do to pamper yourself? Can you share some tips with my readers?
Now that my son is older and I can plan more "me" time I try to do something simple for "me" when I can. I can something as simple and painting my toes, styling my hair beyond the mom ponytail to something like taking myself out on a date one night. I either hire a sitter or do a baby sitting exchange with another mom and just enjoy a few kid free hours. Oh and I always treat my self to cookies! =)
Onica! Thank you for your insight on what it means to be Blasian. I also thank you for allowing my readers take a peek into your world as a single mom to such a bubbly baby boy.
Wishing you the best of luck on all of your endeavors and embracing mother hood to higher heights.